The Power Of Positive Affirmations

Negative thinking is the reason that you don’t have what you want in your life right now. You may not realize this but everything that you have or don’t have today is a result of your previous thinking. You have limited yourself through your thoughts and if you truly want to get what you want then you have to change this.

We all experience negative thoughts from time to time. Some people experience them a lot. We all know people that seem to spend their lives complaining about everything. The world is against them and the reason they are in this position is always someone else’s fault.

If you have thoughts like this then you must change them immediately. It is not the government’s fault that you do not have a big house. Other people have big houses and are under the same government. The difference between you and them is the way that you think.

Optimism versus Pessimism

Are you an optimist or a pessimist? Here is a test for you. How do you feel when Monday morning comes around each week? Do you feel inspired and ready to go or have feelings of dread that the work week has started again?

Or how about this – someone that you know is making some money on the side through a business opportunity that they are involved in. They offer you the chance to get involved with the same opportunity. How do you react to this? Do you tell them that you are not interested right away or do you ask them to tell you more about it?

Optimism is the way to go in life. Being pessimistic about everything will just make you stand still and feel bad about the world. Your negativity will become your reality. This is a life law.

How do you feel about yourself?

When you think about what you have to offer the world how do you feel about this? Are you a confident person? Do you love yourself? If you are asked to do something that you would not normally be comfortable doing how do you feel about this? Do you see it as a challenge that you happily accept or do you want to run and hide?

Having high self esteem is very important on your journey to getting what you really want. You need to be prepared to move out of your comfort zone and take on new things that you have not done before.

Positive Affirmations

One of the most effective ways to change how you think about yourself is to use positive affirmations. If you don’t know what these are then they are just statements that you read out loud or in your head about yourself every day.

So for example you can say “each day and in every way I am getting better and better” or “I believe in myself and I can achieve anything”. The best way to create a positive affirmation list is to write down the negative feelings that you have about yourself and then turn these into positive statements.

So for example if you do not like the idea of public speaking then your thoughts are going to be along the lines of “I will never be good at public speaking”. You can change this to “I am going to be one of the best public speakers in the world”.

Positive affirmations have a major impact on your subconscious mind. The more that you repeat them and take action against them the more your subconscious will believe and support the change that you want to make.

Can Positive Thinking Change Your Life?

Most people nowadays are always in a depressed state of mind due to the pressures of life. Doctors and counselors constantly advices you to thinking think positively in order to set back depression. However, it is tougher to do than to say. Studies show that people who accept defeat sportingly are the happier strata of people and they have an optimistic attitude towards life.

It often may happen that you get worried out of minor issues arising in your daily life. On the other hand, do you get frustrated when things go haphazard? Do you think that you are not happy as much as others are? Do you get angry at the slightest mistake? If these entire attitudes have covered your life, then learn some positive thinking strategies to make life easier and happier. Only an optimistic person can lead a happy and peaceful life.

Now you may ask what exactly the meaning of positive thinking is and how important it is. The answer to this is positive thinking is a process of thinking everything in life or surroundings from a positive or brighter side even if it reflects a negative tone. The outlook and approach towards a task should be from a positive point. The thought in your head must enlighten the positive aspects instead of the negative, discouraging thoughts. Once you change your attitude from a pessimist to an optimist, you will find feel all the good vibes. All good things will surround you and give you more energy to move forward in times of depression.

Nevertheless, how do you suddenly change from being a pessimist to an optimist? Well, it is not a matter of sudden change or changing your thinking process within a day. It all depends on time, your practice and willingness. You have to learn to identify your inner voice. This is the first step to make the changes.

Some people perform an act suddenly without thinking for a second time. They do not think from their whether they really want to do or not. Therefore, first you have to learn to identify your inner voice. After that, always speak in a positive manner. For instance, if you are asking yourself a question, then instead of asking, “Am I not capable of doing this work?” ask, “Am I capable of doing this work?” It reflects a positive attitude. You can find several such examples in your daily life if you put a little attention to what you do.

Therefore, if you are willing to change your life for the good, then keep a little patience and learn to think positively.

Escape Toxic Relationships

Not many know the true definition of what a relationship is. Many think of it as an avenue of getting laid while others think of it as a bond between two people who find each other attractive. All these are just but wild guesses. Yes, they make some sense but none of them get even close to the real definition of a relationship. A true love relationship can only be defined by its characters. A true relationship is one that is based on understanding, where none thinks of himself only, one that has an automatic chemistry to it and above all one that is made of frequent arguments and instant make-ups to each.

On the other hand, the exact opposite to this is a toxic love relationship also known as an unhealthy relationship. A ‘love doctor’ once defined toxic love relationships as bonds between two needy individuals. In the long run, it ends up being a union defined by parasitical behavior. Just like the normal parasitical relationships in the animal world, there is a victim and a parasite in these relationships; each with his or her own degree of ‘sickness’. In some cases, the situation is quit mild that one can hardly notice that the relationship is toxic. It is only after the effects reveal themselves that they notice the relationship was unhealthy, but it is normally too late by then. However, there are ways of escaping such relationships.

Once you find out that you are in a toxic relationship, the best thing to do is to leave that relationship immediately before it gets worse. To some, this tends to be too harsh for them to do it immediately. This is normal since the two of you had already formed some kind of bond. However, there is still a remedy for such a scenario.

All that you are required to do is to take some time off while the two of you re-think things out. Preferably, this should be at least a month and at most three months. In this time, there are certain conditions that the two of you should stick to. They include; not keeping in touch for the whole time, you should reset the clock once one of you goes against the conditions, write letters to each other exposing your feelings and present them after the period is over. Make sure that you meet in a very neutral area. Come to a mutual agreement once you meet or agree to disagree. Make sure the two of you come to an agreement during the final meeting. This is the only way out!

4 Ways to Create an Attitude of Gratitude

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How do you look at life? Do you find yourself complaining about every little thing? Do you have a long list that goes on and on and on? Job stress, friend problems, family that’s done, you wrong, the weatherÖ and on it goes. What you may not realize is that if you wake up in the morning and you find something to complain about that’s pretty much how your day is going to go. You may have already heard of the law of attraction, which simply says that what you focus on and where you put your energy is what you are going to get. In other words, you create your reality.

What would happen if instead of waking up complaining, you opened your eyes and gave thanks for your life. Just that little shift in your attitude from complaining to gratitude can make you more aware of the pleasures in your life and all the blessings that surround you. Gratitude will put your day to day experiences into perspective. When you view the good and the bad, you will be able to move past the constant complaining. Let’s look at 4 ways to do that.

1 Start Your own Gratitude Journal

You should set aside a few minutes at the end of your day to write down 3 or 4 things you are grateful for. It can be as simple as you woke up this morning or as complex as something that happened during the day. Writing down what you are grateful for can help you realize how blessed you are.

2 Take Time to Stop and Smell the Roses

Start to handle your day differently than you have been. Take a minute to stop and smell the roses. In other words, stop rushing through your day. Stop yourself before you become overwhelmed and the negative feelings start to take hold. Stop, breathe, look around, find something beautiful to absorb. Nature is always great but if you are nowhere near nature, perhaps there’s a child, a piece of art, etc. that catches your attention. Focus on it and breathe.

3 Turn a Negative Into a Positive

This can feel difficult. However, if you can achieve it you will benefit greatly. Before you allow yourself to get upset, stop yourself, and think it through with a positive attitude. You might have to meditate on it, you might have to get yourself into a calm state before you address the situation ñ whatever it takes. Take a minute to look for the good in the situation.

4 Make a Compliment

Share kindness with those around you. Say something nice to a stranger or a friend. Spread the love and lift up another human being. You will make their day and yours too.

4 ways to create an attitude of gratitude. It’s really not that hard!

Why Is It Important For Women To Initiate Romance?

This “special ingredient” makes your relationship his favorite hobby

Oftentimes we, as women, leave our needs unexpressed and wait for our husbands to just guess what to do. Many men honestly don’t know how to be romantic. And, when they do get up the courage to attempt romance, their efforts may not be expressed in a way that we appreciate or even recognize as romance.

Look how silly this sounds. If your son was attempting algebra and didn’t understand it, you wouldn’t cry because he didn’t love you. As a mom, we’d sit down, and go over it again and again, for as long as it took until he understood. Yet, we expect our husbands to know something that they’ve never been taught. Instead of leaving your man to struggle, show him how to romance you. How will he know what to do if you don’t show him?

So, how can you teach him how to romance you?

1. Be romantic yourself.

If you show him that you value him and love him on a regular basis, instead of expecting him to be the romantic one, hell be more receptive to trying it himself. The old saying You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar definitely applies. Yelling and crying because he isn’t romantic isn’t exactly going to put him in the lovey mood.

This “special ingredient” makes your relationship his favorite hobby

2. Tell him what you like.

Do you enjoy expensive gifts or would you rather have him make something for you? Would you like him to go on walks with you? Give you cut flowers or live plants?

Make a list of every birthday, anniversary and holiday and include ideas for things he can buy or do for you. Set him up to succeed.

3. Learn what he likes.

The same thing stands for him. Know what makes him happy.

Please dont buy him an expensive gift if hes the frugal type. He wont like it.
Dont take him to a fancy French restaurant if hes a Burger kind of guy. Its ok to take him there for your birthday, but dont take him there for his birthday.
If he loves sports, then go to them with him.

Please initiate romance. So often, women just get more and more resentful that they arent feeling romanced and their man has no clue what to do to fix it. There really should be a required romance course before you can get your marriage license. At least that way, men would, at some point in time, learn how to be romantic. Until then, it’s our job to show him just what we want and need to feel special.

This “special ingredient” makes your relationship his favorite hobby