Can Positive Thinking Change Your Life?

Most people nowadays are always in a depressed state of mind due to the pressures of life. Doctors and counselors constantly advices you to thinking think positively in order to set back depression. However, it is tougher to do than to say. Studies show that people who accept defeat sportingly are the happier strata of people and they have an optimistic attitude towards life.

It often may happen that you get worried out of minor issues arising in your daily life. On the other hand, do you get frustrated when things go haphazard? Do you think that you are not happy as much as others are? Do you get angry at the slightest mistake? If these entire attitudes have covered your life, then learn some positive thinking strategies to make life easier and happier. Only an optimistic person can lead a happy and peaceful life.

Now you may ask what exactly the meaning of positive thinking is and how important it is. The answer to this is positive thinking is a process of thinking everything in life or surroundings from a positive or brighter side even if it reflects a negative tone. The outlook and approach towards a task should be from a positive point. The thought in your head must enlighten the positive aspects instead of the negative, discouraging thoughts. Once you change your attitude from a pessimist to an optimist, you will find feel all the good vibes. All good things will surround you and give you more energy to move forward in times of depression.

Nevertheless, how do you suddenly change from being a pessimist to an optimist? Well, it is not a matter of sudden change or changing your thinking process within a day. It all depends on time, your practice and willingness. You have to learn to identify your inner voice. This is the first step to make the changes.

Some people perform an act suddenly without thinking for a second time. They do not think from their whether they really want to do or not. Therefore, first you have to learn to identify your inner voice. After that, always speak in a positive manner. For instance, if you are asking yourself a question, then instead of asking, “Am I not capable of doing this work?” ask, “Am I capable of doing this work?” It reflects a positive attitude. You can find several such examples in your daily life if you put a little attention to what you do.

Therefore, if you are willing to change your life for the good, then keep a little patience and learn to think positively.

 

Escape Toxic Relationships

Not many know the true definition of what a relationship is. Many think of it as an avenue of getting laid while others think of it as a bond between two people who find each other attractive. All these are just but wild guesses. Yes, they make some sense but none of them get even close to the real definition of a relationship. A true love relationship can only be defined by its characters. A true relationship is one that is based on understanding, where none thinks of himself only, one that has an automatic chemistry to it and above all one that is made of frequent arguments and instant make-ups to each.

On the other hand, the exact opposite to this is a toxic love relationship also known as an unhealthy relationship. A ‘love doctor’ once defined toxic love relationships as bonds between two needy individuals. In the long run, it ends up being a union defined by parasitical behavior. Just like the normal parasitical relationships in the animal world, there is a victim and a parasite in these relationships; each with his or her own degree of ‘sickness’. In some cases, the situation is quit mild that one can hardly notice that the relationship is toxic. It is only after the effects reveal themselves that they notice the relationship was unhealthy, but it is normally too late by then. However, there are ways of escaping such relationships.

Once you find out that you are in a toxic relationship, the best thing to do is to leave that relationship immediately before it gets worse. To some, this tends to be too harsh for them to do it immediately. This is normal since the two of you had already formed some kind of bond. However, there is still a remedy for such a scenario.

All that you are required to do is to take some time off while the two of you re-think things out. Preferably, this should be at least a month and at most three months. In this time, there are certain conditions that the two of you should stick to. They include; not keeping in touch for the whole time, you should reset the clock once one of you goes against the conditions, write letters to each other exposing your feelings and present them after the period is over. Make sure that you meet in a very neutral area. Come to a mutual agreement once you meet or agree to disagree. Make sure the two of you come to an agreement during the final meeting. This is the only way out!

 

4 Ways to Create an Attitude of Gratitude

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How do you look at life? Do you find yourself complaining about every little thing? Do you have a long list that goes on and on and on? Job stress, friend problems, family that’s done, you wrong, the weatherÖ and on it goes. What you may not realize is that if you wake up in the morning and you find something to complain about that’s pretty much how your day is going to go. You may have already heard of the law of attraction, which simply says that what you focus on and where you put your energy is what you are going to get. In other words, you create your reality.

What would happen if instead of waking up complaining, you opened your eyes and gave thanks for your life. Just that little shift in your attitude from complaining to gratitude can make you more aware of the pleasures in your life and all the blessings that surround you. Gratitude will put your day to day experiences into perspective. When you view the good and the bad, you will be able to move past the constant complaining. Let’s look at 4 ways to do that.

1 Start Your own Gratitude Journal

You should set aside a few minutes at the end of your day to write down 3 or 4 things you are grateful for. It can be as simple as you woke up this morning or as complex as something that happened during the day. Writing down what you are grateful for can help you realize how blessed you are.

2 Take Time to Stop and Smell the Roses

Start to handle your day differently than you have been. Take a minute to stop and smell the roses. In other words, stop rushing through your day. Stop yourself before you become overwhelmed and the negative feelings start to take hold. Stop, breathe, look around, find something beautiful to absorb. Nature is always great but if you are nowhere near nature, perhaps there’s a child, a piece of art, etc. that catches your attention. Focus on it and breathe.

3 Turn a Negative Into a Positive

This can feel difficult. However, if you can achieve it you will benefit greatly. Before you allow yourself to get upset, stop yourself, and think it through with a positive attitude. You might have to meditate on it, you might have to get yourself into a calm state before you address the situation ñ whatever it takes. Take a minute to look for the good in the situation.

4 Make a Compliment

Share kindness with those around you. Say something nice to a stranger or a friend. Spread the love and lift up another human being. You will make their day and yours too.

4 ways to create an attitude of gratitude. It’s really not that hard!

Planning Your Day

If you have just woken up and are wondering how to spend your day, you probably know that you may or may not achieve much today. The luxury of waking up and having no plans for the day is something we all dream of and would love to do and probably make it a reality as much as we can on weekends and during the holidays. However, the most effective way to become a productive person is to not waste the day by having no goals or plans for it.

In the current economic environment with its uncertainty and rising costs, economists and financial planners suggest that people take note of every cent they spend so they can see where their money goes each week. People can then use this information to help them plan where they can cut spending out of their budget and use that money to pay for unexpected bills or to save for when it’s needed.

Prizing our time in the same way we do money will help us become effective in our work and our home life as we try to juggle the many responsibilities in our lives and still provide time left over for ourselves. Try to get into the habit of planning your days. Each night before you go to bed, make a mental note of the things you know you need to do and try to create a plan of action. Multi task where possible so you can achieve two or more things at once. Don’t forget to include you time in your plan. Taking care of yourself is as important as taking care of everyone else to achieve life balance. When you have made a mental note of these things, do try taking a few minutes to write them down on paper.

All this may seem unnecessarily laborious. There is however nothing more satisfying than to come to the end of the day and see what was on the to do list at the beginning of the day and see that list crossed out or ticked off, either on paper or in your mind. Creating an ordered life will actually give you more chance of free time rather than less time and you won’t find yourself forgetting things you promised to do for people. Taking 10 minutes to exercise when you didn’t think you had time to exercise becomes potentially possible when you have scheduled it into your day. If this is something you have never done before, try it for a few days and you will soon find it becomes a habit you won’t easily want to give up.

What to Do When Nothing is Working Out For You

If you are one of those people for whom things are just not going the way they want …. if you think that things work out wonderfully well for everyone else BUT you, then you should sit back, relax and ponder upon your situation in this light:

We have all been brought up “in comparison” to others. There is an ideal time to go to school, finish college, get married, make money, have children etc and then everything HAS to repeat itself the same way for our children and so on!

If we are ever “behind” anyone (or everyone) in achieving a certain goal, a lot of anxiety and despair comes rushing into our lives. We then desperately try all kinds of things to get to that goal, all the while worrying that it will not happen for us…and what is the result? It actually doesn’t! The more you despair for something, the more of these “wanting” vibrations will be released into the Universe and you will end up with more of “wanting” and no “gaining”.

I want you to remember that it is always a BIG mistake to judge your life by comparing it with others. Your circumstances are completely different from them…. plans and things that work for them cannot work in exactly the same way for you. By worrying about why things are not working out for you in the same way, you CREATE a reality for that time; that those things or plans are not working for you. It is all because you are defining your reality by comparing it with someone else. Some one else’s reality does not have anything to do with your reality.

Here is a better way of thinking and putting things in perspective: First and foremost, realise completely how you have acqired this state of mind. Accept that you have been comparing your reality with others and that is not taking you anywhere… they have a completely different path in life than yours. Love yourself the way you are, love your circumstances and accept that things at present are exactly as they should be. Also, allow yourself to believe that you WILL succeed although not in EXACTLY the same way that you want to. Perhaps God/Universe/Spirit wants to take you through a different path, but you WILL get there. Trust that although things may or may not turn out to be the way that you want them to, they WILL turn out in a way that is best for you. You have to be relaxed and non-judgemental for things to start working in the direction of your success. Set your OWN definitions of success, and do not base your happiness on how everything is working out for others.

Take action, but do not struggle to control each and every event in your life. Try to do all that you can to make things right and then trust in God/Universe/Spirit to take you to your goal. You will be happier, more secure and will have peace and love in your heart and best of all, eventually things will start going your way.